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#TheRunningWriter QOTD

Let’s fight.

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Fighting is good. You don’t hear that very often, do you?

Last night, I heard it a lot. My hubby and I attended a great marriage lecture that focused on how to fight fair.

Because, yes, you’ve got to verbally duke things out once in a while. Otherwise things get bottled up and that can lead to a messy verbal explosion. Or it’ll fester and eat away at your relationship.

The key is, though, to stay respectful during the verbal sparring. That’s difficult for sure.

One key thing that made great sense was the concept of perception. Most disagreements are rooted in our perception of the person or the event.

One of the most helpful things, in my opinion, is to always reality check what you’re thinking. Literally ask your spouse, “Is this what you meant when you said that?” Or. “I totally heard you say this ______. Is that what you meant?”

It’s a great reality check. It’s pretty amazing how we hear things differently than how they were intended.

And that’s ok. We’re not bad or stupid because we heard something different than what was intended. Men and women are just different. We see and feel things differently. That’s why reality checks are so important.

So, put up your dukes and start fighting.

#TheRunningWriter QOTD

Stare at the solution, not the problem.

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We sometimes tend to zero in on what’s wrong or hurting or what’s scaring us that we forget to look for a solution. A way out of the slump.

It’s especially difficult when you’re surrounded by people who are also staring only at their problems.

You’ve heard the phrase misery loves company, right? That phrase makes me think that it’s almost like we become defined by our problem, pain or illness.

Dare I say we can even need it.

And by need, I mean we need what comes with the problem such as attention, comfort, friendship. It soon becomes the only way we know how to interact with people. The only thing we converse about. The only thing we think about.

That’s not the case with every issue, hear me on that, but it can morph into that if we aren’t careful.

It’s a vicious cycle that can be difficult to break. And the first step is realizing it. There’s a bit of freedom when we see that there might be something else behind our issue(s).

Our eyes become more open, and then the chains around us start to weaken.

With each small step we become stronger. We become known for something other than our problem(s).

We become known for who we truly are. Our likes. Our joys. Our opinions. Not what’s hurting us or what’s wrong with us.

Our issues might not ever fully go away, I get that.

But to be defined by something other than our problem, pain or illness, can actually help our problem, pain, or illness.

Help us attain relief.

What’s your first step toward freedom?

#TheRunningWriter QOTD

Find your center.

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For me, I get up early and do some God-time with a short devotion and meditation. It gets me ready, starts me off on a positive and uplifting note.

With that as some of the first things I experience in a day, how could I not have a great rest of the day, right?

But if I get up late, and I’m in a frenzied rush off to whatever my day holds, it feels like the rest of my day is nuts, too. Little things throw me off kilter. Or frustrate me more than normal.

Getting centered is different for each person. But you’ve got to find your thing, and once you do, you’ve got to stick with it. Get into a routine. Because then, if you’re nice and centered each morning, it takes a lot to knock you down throughout the day.

So what gets you centered?