So, what does the Bible have to say about marriage? Oh, you can bet that’s a controversial topic, that’s for sure. But hey, this is my blog, right? So, I’ll share my thoughts about it. I hope to hear yours as well.
I remember when we had started marital counseling through our church in Iowa (which is now under water due to the flooding, broke my heart when I saw that), I stomped in and said, “Ok Pastor Raske, what’s this whole ‘submissive’ thing?”
I’ll never forget that. He simply smiled and took the much needed time to help me understand it better. I had always thought submission was all about doing whatever the MAN of the house told me to do, no matter how it made me feel. Or, I had to give up everything for him so he could pursue HIS dreams and aspirations. Finally, I thought it was about losing myself.
Yeah, I couldn’t have been more wrong. Sure, at first when I read, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” (Ephesians 5:22) I FREAKED. Really, I freaked.
You know what, though, he pointed it out that in verse 25 it continues with, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ love the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy….” (Ephesians 5:25)
Now, I’m not going to claim to be this master theologian, I’m not, I’m a lay person trying to do God’s will. But the way my pastor put it on my level really sunk in. He basically just said, yes, Charlie will be in the Word, seeking God’s will, and, in turn, be looking out for your best interest. He’ll ask your opinion and value it. It’s not a dictatorship, because like Christ put his church first, Charlie will put me first.
How comforting is that? To me, VERY! Knowing Charlie’s got MY best interest at heart in all that he does. I’m all for that. And it’s seemed to work out fairly well the last 12 years. Not a perfect party of rose petals, but who’s life IS?