Stare at the solution, not the problem.
We sometimes tend to zero in on what’s wrong or hurting or what’s scaring us that we forget to look for a solution. A way out of the slump.
It’s especially difficult when you’re surrounded by people who are also staring only at their problems.
You’ve heard the phrase misery loves company, right? That phrase makes me think that it’s almost like we become defined by our problem, pain or illness.
Dare I say we can even need it.
And by need, I mean we need what comes with the problem such as attention, comfort, friendship. It soon becomes the only way we know how to interact with people. The only thing we converse about. The only thing we think about.
That’s not the case with every issue, hear me on that, but it can morph into that if we aren’t careful.
It’s a vicious cycle that can be difficult to break. And the first step is realizing it. There’s a bit of freedom when we see that there might be something else behind our issue(s).
Our eyes become more open, and then the chains around us start to weaken.
With each small step we become stronger. We become known for something other than our problem(s).
We become known for who we truly are. Our likes. Our joys. Our opinions. Not what’s hurting us or what’s wrong with us.
Our issues might not ever fully go away, I get that.
But to be defined by something other than our problem, pain or illness, can actually help our problem, pain, or illness.
Help us attain relief.
What’s your first step toward freedom?