Some of you might know that phrase from a really famous movie.
But today I was thinking more about the golden rule.
Basically the golden rule is the principle of treating others as one would wish to be treated.
But what does that really mean?
If you’re nice to me I’ll be nice to you?
That’s how a lot of us look at it. Me included. The real challenge is to treat each other respectfully and with love no matter what they are doing or saying to you or how they are treating you.
Now. It doesn’t mean you’re a doormat. I’m for sure not saying that. You still need to set boundaries and limits, yes. But keeping score, looking for ways to pay back mistreatment…that’s what we need to try and cut off.
We are not perfect. We will never be perfect. So why should I expect perfection from those around me? Why would I think everyone else will 100% be nice, thoughtful, considerate and encouraging to me 100% of the time?
I have to remind myself when I get upset with how someone is treating me that the person is not perfect. They might be having a bad day. They may not even realize they are being hurtful.
And mostly, I remind myself that I’ve been like that to people before, too, and they’ve forgiven me.
So, when I’m getting shouted at or talked down to by a customer, I will stay golden.
When my hubby has a mood, I will stay golden.
When a co-worker is frustrating or selfish, I will stay golden.
When a friend hurts my feelings, I will stay golden.
And it’s not because I’m amazing, not at all—not even close. It’s because they’ve all done it for me when I’ve acted like those people mentioned above.
And we’ve all acted like that.
Stay golden, my friends.